Well when the suspend kills you to the point of letting someone know, I have an ear and I "swear" not to tell.
Or you could just come out with it.
Anything worth doing is worth over doing, Moderation is for Cowards
"Make (your attacker) advance through a wall of bullets. I may get killed with my own gun, but he’s gonna have to beat me to death with it, ‘cause it’s going to be empty." Clint Smith