So what do you do when you find an old GF

blackrain · 03-13-2010, 08:00 AM

on Face book? I just took the chance and there she was. I wondered for yrs what ever happened to her. She just left with no contact.
So I sent her a message. Hopefully she will answer and I can finally find out what happened all those yrs ago.
She still looks good and she seems happy. She was in Houston the whole time. Dammit I thought I had seen her in the mall a few yrs back,but wasn't sure till now.
Later,
Blackrain

Titus · 03-13-2010, 08:09 AM

An x is an x for a reason, when one tries to add me as a "friend" I hit the ignore key as quickly as possible no matter how well the relationship ended.

blackrain · 03-13-2010, 08:24 AM

I didn't try to add as a friend. Just wanted to say hello and that's as far as it will go. I think my wife met all my X's from Texas,except this one lol. I doubt she will even remember me,but you never know. She was looking to get married young and I wasn't. We are looking at way over a 20 yr span here.
Later,
Blackrain

1S1K · 03-13-2010, 08:32 AM

Facebook + old boyfriend/girlfriend =

trouble.I have seen it happen.

blackrain · 03-13-2010, 08:50 AM

I doubt any trouble. Worst thing that could happen is she doesn't respond and that's the end of it. At least I know what happened to her and she's not dead.
Later,
Blackrain

PistolRogue · 03-13-2010, 08:54 AM

Come on guys if it was a recent ex that would be one thing, we're talking about 20 frigging years here.

Dave-D · 03-13-2010, 08:59 AM

I agree, best not to go there. Ex'es are best left in the past.

I too have found a few ex GF's on facebook and on the internet and though I'm often tempted to say "Hi" (esp with the ones where it ended OK ) But in reality I'm a different person now, and so too are they (hopefully), catching up can only lead to hard feelings if either of us has any sort of resentment....and I'm afraid some of my ex's might not feel I was (how would I say this

) civil when we broke up.

I look at my past as a learning experience, there is no way I would want to re-live it.

Leave the past in the past.

blackrain · 03-13-2010, 09:03 AM

She was a foster child and one day she was just gone. We were still friends and kept in touch while I lived in Calif and going to school. Then one day I get a call from my friend to let me know she was gone and that was it. So there were no hard feelings at all for either of us. Man were were like 17 & 18 yrs then. We are almost 50 yrs now. Grown ADULTS.
Later,
Blackrain

1S1K · 03-13-2010, 09:09 AM

Yeah it depends alot on the people involved .I mean you are just curious about what happened to her and your wife understands that.Some people just cant handle there spouce looking up old girlfriends/boyfriends.It puts that little thought in there head...."why are they doing this" and it drives them crazy.

JKR · 03-13-2010, 09:13 AM

If you are comfortable in telling your wife you sent the message, I say no harm done. If this is something you don't feel like telling your wife, then you shouldn't mess with it.

03-13-2010, 08:00 AM	#1 (permalink)
blackrain MCB Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: America	So what do you do when you find an old GF on Face book? I just took the chance and there she was. I wondered for yrs what ever happened to her. She just left with no contact. So I sent her a message. Hopefully she will answer and I can finally find out what happened all those yrs ago. She still looks good and she seems happy. She was in Houston the whole time. Dammit I thought I had seen her in the mall a few yrs back,but wasn't sure till now. Later, Blackrain __________________ Visit my Sponsor page: http://www.mcarterbrown.com/forums/t...y-sponsor.html "When all else fails, pull the pin and see what happens next" Follow Team Blackrain on Face Book: http://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.p...00000734844527 Best Auto cocker info ever Just like to make crazy stuff for paintball? Click here My feedback How Paintballs are made

03-13-2010, 08:09 AM	#2 (permalink)
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03-13-2010, 08:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
blackrain MCB Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: America	I didn't try to add as a friend. Just wanted to say hello and that's as far as it will go. I think my wife met all my X's from Texas,except this one lol. I doubt she will even remember me,but you never know. She was looking to get married young and I wasn't. We are looking at way over a 20 yr span here. Later, Blackrain __________________ Visit my Sponsor page: http://www.mcarterbrown.com/forums/t...y-sponsor.html "When all else fails, pull the pin and see what happens next" Follow Team Blackrain on Face Book: http://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.p...00000734844527 Best Auto cocker info ever Just like to make crazy stuff for paintball? Click here My feedback How Paintballs are made

03-13-2010, 08:32 AM	#4 (permalink)
1S1K I love this Place Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Smithville,Ontario,Canada	Facebook + old boyfriend/girlfriend = trouble.I have seen it happen. __________________ "It's not the size of the dog in the fight,it's the size of the fight in the dog" Feedback 37+0- http://www.mcarterbrown.com/forums/f...highlight=1s1k http://customcockers.com/forum/showt...ewpost&t=10999

03-13-2010, 08:50 AM	#5 (permalink)
blackrain MCB Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: America	I doubt any trouble. Worst thing that could happen is she doesn't respond and that's the end of it. At least I know what happened to her and she's not dead. Later, Blackrain __________________ Visit my Sponsor page: http://www.mcarterbrown.com/forums/t...y-sponsor.html "When all else fails, pull the pin and see what happens next" Follow Team Blackrain on Face Book: http://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.p...00000734844527 Best Auto cocker info ever Just like to make crazy stuff for paintball? Click here My feedback How Paintballs are made

03-13-2010, 08:54 AM	#6 (permalink)
PistolRogue I've got a place there... Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Jackson, NJ	Come on guys if it was a recent ex that would be one thing, we're talking about 20 frigging years here. __________________ Jay AKA Rogue Reservoir Dogs Scenario Paintball Team- Our $#&* is RIGOROUS! Check Out My Mod Threads : Pirate DSG - SA17 Mods - Simple/Cheap/Free TPX Mods - The 'Big Damn Hero' DRV FEEDBACK DRV #111 FS!!

03-13-2010, 08:59 AM	#7 (permalink)
Dave-D Hoarder not Whore Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Florida's doormat	I agree, best not to go there. Ex'es are best left in the past. I too have found a few ex GF's on facebook and on the internet and though I'm often tempted to say "Hi" (esp with the ones where it ended OK ) But in reality I'm a different person now, and so too are they (hopefully), catching up can only lead to hard feelings if either of us has any sort of resentment....and I'm afraid some of my ex's might not feel I was (how would I say this) civil when we broke up. I look at my past as a learning experience, there is no way I would want to re-live it. Leave the past in the past. __________________ Will I go blind if I polish my Brass everyday? Feedback: http://www.mcarterbrown.com/forums/f...-feedback.html

03-13-2010, 09:03 AM	#8 (permalink)
blackrain MCB Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: America	She was a foster child and one day she was just gone. We were still friends and kept in touch while I lived in Calif and going to school. Then one day I get a call from my friend to let me know she was gone and that was it. So there were no hard feelings at all for either of us. Man were were like 17 & 18 yrs then. We are almost 50 yrs now. Grown ADULTS. Later, Blackrain __________________ Visit my Sponsor page: http://www.mcarterbrown.com/forums/t...y-sponsor.html "When all else fails, pull the pin and see what happens next" Follow Team Blackrain on Face Book: http://www.facebook.com/#!/profile.p...00000734844527 Best Auto cocker info ever Just like to make crazy stuff for paintball? Click here My feedback How Paintballs are made

03-13-2010, 09:09 AM	#9 (permalink)
1S1K I love this Place Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Smithville,Ontario,Canada	Yeah it depends alot on the people involved .I mean you are just curious about what happened to her and your wife understands that.Some people just cant handle there spouce looking up old girlfriends/boyfriends.It puts that little thought in there head...."why are they doing this" and it drives them crazy. __________________ "It's not the size of the dog in the fight,it's the size of the fight in the dog" Feedback 37+0- http://www.mcarterbrown.com/forums/f...highlight=1s1k http://customcockers.com/forum/showt...ewpost&t=10999

03-13-2010, 09:13 AM	#10 (permalink)
JKR AKA: Wraith Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: WV	If you are comfortable in telling your wife you sent the message, I say no harm done. If this is something you don't feel like telling your wife, then you shouldn't mess with it. __________________ "A people that values its privileges above its principles soon loses both." -- Dwight D. Eisenhower "Associate with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation; for it is better to be alone than in bad company." -- George Washington JAN 20, 2013 View My Special Ops Brigade Page Feedback