When you get facebooked.

gunman_2000 · 08-29-2008, 09:41 PM

Facebook...a wonderful tool of the modern digital age that allows you to always keep track of your friends and make instant plans without having to resort to emails.

(Heres where it turns into a bit of a rant I guess.)
Except, what happens when your past starts finding you on such a place? I guess I'm just one of those people that wants to basically forget things that happened a long time ago. For example, I've been bouncing around post secondary school and such for 7 years now. I have not been in contact with more than a small handful of people I knew in high school (small being, 3). Then out of the blue the other day I get a friend request from someone i knew in high school. We were casual acquaintances in school ya, but I haven't seen or heard from her in 7 years.

And to be honest, I have no real interest at all in adding her or talking to her. The only thing I see happening is getting dragged into the never ending "what have you been up to..." conversations (I generally hate those). And after looking at her friends list, I see oodles of people's names I remember from high school, and again no one I really want to talk too.

Problem is I feel somewhat bad for wanting to ignore them. I just want to press on and deal with what is happening now. I don't feel the need to go back and check on things with people I haven't seen hide nor hair of in over 7 years.

I hope others would feel this way too, and that I'm not just a huge prick

As it stands I have no interest in going to any high school reunions either. This turned into more of a rant than I thought it would really. I would be interested in seeing how anyone else would feel in this case, if you have facebook I'm sure its happened to you as well.

cockerpunk · 08-29-2008, 09:43 PM

perfect solution - dont have facebook

Mar · 08-29-2008, 09:44 PM

well....people change, and perhaps they want a chance to let you know they have changed, or to make up for anything they did or said earlier...

Or maybe she just wants a high friend count...

If it means a lot to you, just ignore those you do't want as friends: you might understand what someone's motives for contacting you would be better than me, as of course you knew them: however some people have reached out to me and repaired rifts that we had many years ago, and I have done the same.

Facebook is a funny beast, it really says a lot about people.

diOs · 08-29-2008, 09:57 PM

i don't go on facebook or myspace.
but i do still hang out with the same group of guys since grammar school. our 10 year high school re-union is this fall and they keep bugging to go, but i refuse. if i still wanted to know about some people from back then or if they wanted to know how i was doing. then they should of kept in touch. i'm not going to waste a good evening hearing the same ****ing stories over and over again. you either continued your education and work in that field or you didn't, you either got married or you didn't, you either have a kid or kids or you didn't. i rather be at the bar or wrenching on my mustang.
trust me don't lose a second feeling bad, life is to short.

Falcon16 · 08-29-2008, 10:03 PM

facebook is good for keeping in contact with some family I don't get to see because of distance and some close friends that went to university and college away from our town and lastly some elementary school friends I'd known since I was 5 and just wanted to be able to keep in touch when they moved away for uni/college other than that facebook and myspace are wasted

PsychoBaller · 08-29-2008, 10:16 PM

Just deactivated my Facebook today... thinking bout doing the same with MySpace. My life is just not busy enough, nor do I care to update it everyday, week, month... as some of my friends do... (some do every coupe of hours, with all the useless, random crap in the world).

Stuffy · 08-29-2008, 10:22 PM

Its a highschool thing

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I nuked the myspace awhile ago but facebook is more refined and useful for finding friends from other schools, cities, and states.

Mayvik · 08-29-2008, 10:24 PM

Just because you HAVE a thing, does not mean you have to USE a thing. I have plenty of people that are my "friends" that I never talk to, nor do I go around updating my status every 5 minutes.

Stuffy · 08-29-2008, 10:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mayvik

Just because you HAVE a thing, does not mean you have to USE a thing. I have plenty of people that are my "friends" that I never talk to, nor do I go around updating my status every 5 minutes.

Well said.

gunman_2000 · 08-29-2008, 10:31 PM

haven't updated my status or anything in ages..I don't really touch facebook aside from a few minor things and making plans with people I actually talk with now. I am just not a fan of anyone that ever knew me finding me and dogging me with conversations and questions. I just have nothing to say :P

its great for storing pictures and a few other things, i prefer it over email to leaving messages and short notes for people.

Mar you have some very good points. Quite insightful.

08-29-2008, 09:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
gunman_2000 Active Member Join Date: Jun 2008	When you get facebooked. Facebook...a wonderful tool of the modern digital age that allows you to always keep track of your friends and make instant plans without having to resort to emails. (Heres where it turns into a bit of a rant I guess.) Except, what happens when your past starts finding you on such a place? I guess I'm just one of those people that wants to basically forget things that happened a long time ago. For example, I've been bouncing around post secondary school and such for 7 years now. I have not been in contact with more than a small handful of people I knew in high school (small being, 3). Then out of the blue the other day I get a friend request from someone i knew in high school. We were casual acquaintances in school ya, but I haven't seen or heard from her in 7 years. And to be honest, I have no real interest at all in adding her or talking to her. The only thing I see happening is getting dragged into the never ending "what have you been up to..." conversations (I generally hate those). And after looking at her friends list, I see oodles of people's names I remember from high school, and again no one I really want to talk too. Problem is I feel somewhat bad for wanting to ignore them. I just want to press on and deal with what is happening now. I don't feel the need to go back and check on things with people I haven't seen hide nor hair of in over 7 years. I hope others would feel this way too, and that I'm not just a huge prick As it stands I have no interest in going to any high school reunions either. This turned into more of a rant than I thought it would really. I would be interested in seeing how anyone else would feel in this case, if you have facebook I'm sure its happened to you as well.

08-29-2008, 09:43 PM	#2 (permalink)
cockerpunk MCB Member Join Date: Jul 2006	perfect solution - dont have facebook __________________ the ultimate truth in paintball is that the interaction between the gun and the player is far and away the largest factor in accuracy, consistency, and reliability. >>PAINTBALL SCIENCE!<< "Originally posted by Garbageman705: Arguing with Cockerpunk is like fighting a T-Rex. Your going to get your *** kicked."

08-29-2008, 09:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
Mar I awesome and so can you! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: 5,987 posts	well....people change, and perhaps they want a chance to let you know they have changed, or to make up for anything they did or said earlier... Or maybe she just wants a high friend count... If it means a lot to you, just ignore those you do't want as friends: you might understand what someone's motives for contacting you would be better than me, as of course you knew them: however some people have reached out to me and repaired rifts that we had many years ago, and I have done the same. Facebook is a funny beast, it really says a lot about people. __________________

08-29-2008, 10:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
PsychoBaller p8ntd dawurld, an thensum Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: NJ	Just deactivated my Facebook today... thinking bout doing the same with MySpace. My life is just not busy enough, nor do I care to update it everyday, week, month... as some of my friends do... (some do every coupe of hours, with all the useless, random crap in the world). __________________ 13th Legionnaires Scenario Team DC Viking #1 - DC Viking #2 - Blazer Project - Phooncane brewing Destructive Customs

08-29-2008, 10:24 PM	#8 (permalink)
Mayvik 1-866-MEAT-4-YU Join Date: May 2007 Location: Binghamton NY	Just because you HAVE a thing, does not mean you have to USE a thing. I have plenty of people that are my "friends" that I never talk to, nor do I go around updating my status every 5 minutes. __________________ <Painthappy_Drinking> There's never a wrong hole <souz4402> i was imaginnig the gay party All sales closed until after I move. My Feedback

08-29-2008, 10:31 PM	#10 (permalink)
gunman_2000 Active Member Join Date: Jun 2008	haven't updated my status or anything in ages..I don't really touch facebook aside from a few minor things and making plans with people I actually talk with now. I am just not a fan of anyone that ever knew me finding me and dogging me with conversations and questions. I just have nothing to say :P its great for storing pictures and a few other things, i prefer it over email to leaving messages and short notes for people. Mar you have some very good points. Quite insightful.