Fatal self neglect

[punkncat]

I suppose it's very common, eh?

A super old acquaintance and friend, among the group of people I played paintball with the first time passed away last night. It will be a moment for the actual cause of death but basically comes down to complete neglect of himself. Really a damned shame. Guy was a couple of years younger than myself.
He went through a rough patch back a few years ago after a divorce and the death of his parents. Refused to do much but drugs and drinking afterwards. He was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes a while back and didn't change anything, or take meds. Just over a month ago he had two sores that wouldn't heal go septic/staph/necrotizing over the last month in the hospital. Went out raving and unaware of who and where he was.

Isn't it amazing that something so preventable and so actionable can seem insurmountable from such a perspective.

[Falcon16]

Depression + Alcohol and drugs is a recipe for a fatality. Sorry to hear of the loss of your friend.

[Seajay]

I have a dear friend that is riding this roller coaster right now. He's clean for months then just disappears. I've found providing help is just as difficult as him helping himself. Depression is really a terrible thing, totally changes someone.

[WilD]

Depression + Alcohol and drugs is a recipe for a fatality. Sorry to hear of the loss of your friend.

THIS. I am a person who really loved a good craft beer, but I can't say enough bad about alcohol. It is deadly, doubly so when clinical depression is involved. And mixed with other drugs (Rx or not)... muerto.

[Jonnydread]

Sorry to hear that man, it’s never easy losing a friend. You can lead a horse to water, but you sure as shit can’t make them drink.

[JonM]

I feel you. I lost a childhood friend who I hadn't seen in many years just last year to a similar situation. He was only 45 at the time and according to his sister, his liver was completely shot from alcoholism. It's a damn shame what people can do to themselves. I'm sorry about your friend.

[Siress]

Condolences for your loss.

[Grendel]

Very sorry you have experienced this. Unfortunately I have known a few individuals (past friends) that this has happened to and all were fully preventable with proper care and getting healthy. It is very hard to watch someone deteriorate over time, especially if attempts to help are rebuffed time and time again.

[bellicose]

We lost a family member to this recently. No one knew how bad it was until the body was found. Lucky, the autopsy said he died before hitting the floor, so it was at least quick.

[Tarsun2]

Sorry to hear.
Had a friend self destruct like that. Diabetes and a drinking problem.
He'd get a glass of cheap vodkaand then was it down with a decent chilled shot of vodka.
Boss stopped paying him on Fridays because he was nowhere to be found on Saturdays. Never managed his diabetes and drank from sun up to sun down.

he went on a particularity hard bender that finally did him in. He was found a day or so later under a local bridge by a fisherman....

some people dont have instinct of self preservation; and i dont understand it.

[Interl0per]

Damn sorry to hear that, lost a very dear friend at 28 to shitty driving, a broken spirit sometimes never heals I pray for peace for both of you

[Rainmaker]

Sorry to hear it man.

[RAZRBAKK]

It would seem most of us have had a similar experience with depression, whether it's a friend, family member, or ourselves.

My girlfriends cousin, 20 years old, hung herself last week. She had been battling depression for a while.

I've been suicidal in the past, even recently honestly.

From what I can tell, you have to want to get better but depression can be so strong that you simply don't believe you can. The cycle starts over again...

I'm sorry for your loss.

[Interl0per]

Don't be afraid to seek help, talking to a therapist and availing yourself of medical care is no more a weakness than getting stitches or setting a broken bone or tanking antibiotics, our brains are an organ that can experience disease like any other. There's practically no stigma attached anymore and you don't need to talk about anything you don't want to with a therapist if you go that route.

[punkncat]

My girlfriends cousin, 20 years old, hung herself last week. She had been battling depression for a while.

:wow:

Hope you are getting or working on getting help yourself...

[nerdcore]

It would seem most of us have had a similar experience with depression, whether it's a friend, family member, or ourselves.

My girlfriends cousin, 20 years old, hung herself last week. She had been battling depression for a while.

I've been suicidal in the past, even recently honestly.

From what I can tell, you have to want to get better but depression can be so strong that you simply don't believe you can. The cycle starts over again...

I'm sorry for your loss.

For you, and for everyone, talk to a doctor and a therapist if possible. Even if you don't have depression, it helps to have the assistance of a professional, with an objective point of view, make sense of how you're feeling and how events such as these have impacted you, wether you know it or not.